Dear Ruby, I notice that numerous women, generally of ethnic decent, advertise themselves a potential wives with traditional values. Things like cooking, cleaning and keep a husband satisfied sexually, being seductive and playful. From other sources this behavior typically come with some requirements for financial security and respectful relationships with her family. I know that numerous ex-pats visit foreign countries with the thought that they will find a traditional wife that is less interested in women’s lib or a career. What are your thoughts about this?
Ex-pat-maybe
Dear Ex-pat-maybe,
A lot of men say they want a “traditional wife.”
Someone who:
– cooks
– keeps a home
– respects her man
– is affectionate and available
And on the surface, that sounds simple, and appealing.
But here’s the truth most people don’t say out loud:
Those things alone don’t create a lasting relationship.
What Actually Matters More
A woman who is ready for marriage brings something deeper than roles:
1. She brings emotional stability
Not perfection, but she can communicate, handle conflict, and stay grounded.
2. She respects, but also expects respect It’s not one-sided. The relationship only works if both people value each other.
3. She has warmth and femininity, but not dependency. She adds to a man’s life, not disappears into it.
4. She is consistent. What you see over time matters more than what you see in the beginning.
About Seduction and Playfulness
Yes, women do tease.
Yes, wives can absolutely be seductive.
In fact, in a healthy relationship:
– playfulness
– affection
– a little teasing
are important parts of keeping attraction alive. But here’s the difference:
Seduction works when it’s:
– mutual
– natural
– connected to emotional closeness
Not forced, not constant, and not replacing real connection.
The Hard Truth Most Men Miss
Men often focus on:
– what a woman does (cook, clean, etc.)
But what they stay for is:
– how she makes them feel day to day
Is life more peaceful?
Is communication easier?
Is there trust?
That’s what determines whether a relationship lasts.
Why Many Women Leave (The 70% Question)
It’s not because women “give up faster.”
It’s usually because:
– issues were raised repeatedly and not resolved
– emotional connection faded
– imbalance built over time
By the time a woman leaves, she’s often been unhappy for a long time.
“Men don’t just want a traditional wife, they want a woman who feels good to be with.”