Dear Ruby, I would like your opinion on something. I few weeks ago I listed a small boat on FB. The boat has been sitting […]
Category: Relationships
Trans Dad
Dear Ruby, I have a 13 year old daughter. She has reached puberty so her breasts are filling out. She won’t talk about her situation […]
Stop or Go
Dear Ruby, I am 26 years old and I have a much older boyfriend. He treats me very well in every way. He is loving […]
Emotionally Drained
Dear Ruby, About a year ago I met someone online completely by accident. It started as casual conversation. At the time I was going through […]
Trapped and Ashamed
Dear Ruby, I never thought I would find myself in this situation. I have always considered myself responsible with money, but over the last few […]
Sexless
Dear Ruby, I have been in what I consider to be a sexless marriage for a long time. It’s probably mostly my fault, much of […]
WIFE MATERIAL: What Men Say They Want vs What Actually Works
Dear Ruby, I notice that numerous women, generally of ethnic decent, advertise themselves a potential wives with traditional values. Things like cooking, cleaning and keep […]
Why Attraction Has Nothing to Do With Looks:
Most people think attraction starts with appearance. It doesn’t. Attraction often starts with something much quieter—the way someone makes you feel during a simple interaction. […]
Learning to flirt
Lesson: Why attraction starts before a word is spoken.
You don’t meet someone the moment you say “hello.”
You meet them the moment your eyes lock, even for a second.
That quiet pause… that slight smile… that feeling that something just shifted, you can’t fake that. And most people miss it because they’re too busy thinking about what to say next.
Attraction isn’t about perfect lines. It’s about presence.
It’s the way you carry yourself, the confidence in your posture, the calmness in your voice. It’s letting a moment breathe instead of rushing to fill it.
A woman notices when a man looks at her with intention, not staring, not desperate, but aware. A man notices when a woman holds eye contact just a second longer than necessary, then looks away with a hint of a smile.
That’s where it starts.
Flirting isn’t chasing. It’s inviting.
It’s creating a moment where both people feel something, and neither one has to force it.
Most people are starving for that kind of connection. Not loud, not aggressive… just real.
And the truth?
If you learn to master that quiet moment… you’ll never need a pickup line again.
Loving in the Unknown
Dear Ruby, I have been communicating with a woman online that contacted me after I made teasing comments on her Face Book posts. She uses […]